I suppose there are a couple of points of view to look at with regards your trust of other people:
- the first one is the way you feel about it, which is something you are dealing with internally now. It's likely to be a long slow process, but at least you're making a start on it.
- the second is the way other people perceive your trust of them. Specifically, is there anyone who is offended by you showing an unreasonable level of distrust of them?
You don't appear to me to be particularly untrusting. Admittedly I wouldn't expect you to trust me at any more than a basic level since we don't know each other that well, but it doesn't look to me as if you have an unreasonable level of lack of trust towards people in general.
You have genuine reasons for specific difficulties in trusting the subcategory of people who you might consider getting into a relationship with. You've had a bad experience with a previous partner not being prepared to let go and/or respect your boundaries, and it wouldn't be surprising if that affected your view of potential future relationships.
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Date: 2003-12-28 03:18 pm (UTC)- the first one is the way you feel about it, which is something you are dealing with internally now. It's likely to be a long slow process, but at least you're making a start on it.
- the second is the way other people perceive your trust of them. Specifically, is there anyone who is offended by you showing an unreasonable level of distrust of them?
You don't appear to me to be particularly untrusting. Admittedly I wouldn't expect you to trust me at any more than a basic level since we don't know each other that well, but it doesn't look to me as if you have an unreasonable level of lack of trust towards people in general.
You have genuine reasons for specific difficulties in trusting the subcategory of people who you might consider getting into a relationship with.
You've had a bad experience with a previous partner not being prepared to let go and/or respect your boundaries, and it wouldn't be surprising if that affected your view of potential future relationships.